You can tell they mean you no good by their fruit. The relationship is more you give 99%, they receive 99%. The 1% they choose to "freely give" comes with a price. It is mainly for the 99% they are seeking to receive from you. In any relationship, it should not be 99/1. It shouldn't even be 50/50, but rather 100% both ways. This particular type of person usually hangs around until the spring of the year when it's "open game season" for them to comfortably discard you, without warning, then off to find a new prey. Some even have the gall to find someone else and try to hang onto to you in case it doesn't work out with the next victim.
Once this person is in your life for a portion of the season, you become attached to this person and do your best to keep them satisfied. Before you know it, you're jumping through hoops doing for them and not reaping any of the benefits yourself. This is harmful to your spirit and relationship with others. You will tend to either lash out at those trying to help you out of the situation, or you wilt like a dying flower just accepting the relationship like it is causing more damage to your spirit. You are much too precious to the rest of us to allow this to happen. Someone on the outside may see what's going on inside but you choose not to listen. If the person warning you is still continuing to be a friend no matter what the situation is with this other person, listen carefully. It will save you a lot of heartache. Better to face the fact that you were fooled into something you didn't intend to be in, than to try and save face trying to cover up and fix things yourself.
Please everyone be safe!!! It is Granny's will and pleasure that you have a good life and enjoy it to the fullest.
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